good advice

If you don't like the answers you seem to be getting, try asking different questions.
If you don't like the conversations you are holding, try talking to other people.
If you are not pleased with the hand you have been dealt, see if you can swap it or negotiate for some other set of opportunities and challenges.
No matter what obstacles are in your path now, there is also fluidity and flexibility.
Nothing has to be the way that it has been in the past, unless you want to preserve it.